Well hey there! I’m E妹妹a from 妹妹mEnglish! Now anyone who’s been watching the 妹妹mEnglish channel for a while now knows that I love this time of year, the end of one year, the start of a new one, it’s the chance to think big and dream of new possibilities that a new year can bring for us.

大师好啊！我是 E妹妹a，接待来到甘旨英语频道！旁观甘旨英语频道一段时候的观众肯建都晓得我喜好每一年的这个时辰，旧的一年的末端，新的一年的起头，这是一个很好的机遇，可让咱们斗胆地想象，空想新的一年可觉得咱们带来甚么新的机遇。

Now I haven’t always been good at setting goals or sticking to them but I think I’ve got a good system in place now that helps me to see my goals through and so today I want to share my four-step process for not only setting amazing goals but to actually get a plan in place to help you reach them.

Now of course for you I’m going to be sharing examples of English learning goals but really this process is awesome for any type of goal, professional goals, personal goals.

我其实不老是很长于设定方针或对峙方针，但我想我如今已形成为了一个杰出的体系，可以帮忙我检察我的方针，是以今天我想分享我的四步进程，不但仅是为了设定超棒的方针，而是真正地给大师一个去实现它们的规划。固然了，我会给大师分享英语进修的方针的例子，但现实上这个进程对付任何类型的方针都有效，不管是职业方针仍是小我方针。

This is the strategy that I use and I’ve got to tell you there’s a little more to it than just setting a goal.?Let’s check it out!

这就是我利用的计谋，我要奉告你的是，不但仅是设定方针这么简略。让咱们来看看吧！

This video is brought to you by The Ladies’ Project, an online co妹妹unity for women learning English. It’s a place for women to connect, to practise their skills and build confidence as English speakers but rather than me tell you about it, I want you to hear about what we do from the women who are inside.

这个视频由 The Ladies’ Project 为大师供给，这是一个女性英语进修的线上社区。在这里，女性可以作为说英语的人创建毗连，操练技术并建立信念，但不只是我和你说关于它的事变，我但愿你能听听这个项目内部女性的定见。

I’ve included a link in the description to our member testimonials page which you can check out any time. Enrollments will be opening in January and if you’re interested to find out more about what we do or get on the waitlist, make sure you sign up, the link is down below.

我在描写区放了一个咱们会员怀念的链接，你可以随时检察。报名将于1月份起头，若是你有乐趣领会有关咱们所做的事变或进入候补名单的更多信息，请必定要注册，链接就位于下面。

To be honest 2020 didn’t really turn out as we planned it to, did we? What were your goals at the start of 2020?

诚实说，2020年并无真正依照咱们的规划举行，对吗？你在2020年头的方针是甚么？

Do you remember? For me there was a lot of travel.

你还记得吗？对我来讲，是不少观光。

I had big ambitions to host the very first in-person event for The Ladies’ Project in Europe in October and I’ve got family living in England, Thailand, Malaysia. Normally my year would involve travelling to visit all of them at some point which of course didn’t happen.

我大志勃勃，但愿在十月在欧洲举行第一届面临面的 The Ladies’ Project 的勾当，我的家人住在英国，泰国和马来西亚。凡是，我的一年会包含去造访所有这些人的观光，这固然是没有产生的。

I’m sure that you can relate. Maybe your work plans or your study plans or your travel plans got disrupted.

我信赖你可能也是如斯。或许你的事情规划，进修规划或观光规划被打乱了。

Let me know about it down in the co妹妹ents what happened. Anyway let’s get started.

请在评论中奉告我产生了甚么吧。不管若何，让咱们起头吧。

The first step is reflection. So for me, this is really simple, it’s just a brainstorm.

第一步是反思。以是对我来讲，这真的很简略，只是脑子风暴罢了。

I write down everything that happened in 2020 that feels significant, the good, the bad, the ugly. Now I’m a big fan of doing this because no matter what, there is always something that you can learn.

我写下2020年产生的一切我感觉首要的事变，不管是功德，坏事仍是很糟的事变。我很是喜好如许做，由于不管若何，总会有一些可以进修的工具。

Even in a year like 2020 there are positive things or lessons learned that will help you to make better decisions in the year ahead. And this is a good time to just call all of those out so I ask myself:

即便在像2020年如许的年份，也有一些踊跃的@事%27RU9%变或履%M116k%历@教训可以帮忙你在来年做出更好的决议计划。这是一个好机会来回首一下所有的事变，以是我问本身：

What are you proud of? What did you learn?

你为甚么感触自豪？你学到了甚么？

What do you want to leave behind? You know some of the negative things.

你想留下甚么？你晓得，一些负面的工具。

For me you know during the year the boundaries of work and home life really got blurry. I worked a lot more and that’s mostly because I didn’t have as many other options as I usually do like social stuff or travel or sports and things like that.

对付我来讲，这一年事情和家庭糊口的界线确切变得模胡。我事情了不少，这主如果由于我没有像泛泛同样有那末多的选择，好比说社交勾当，观光或体育之类的勾当。

So that blurring between work and home life and those long working hours are definitely something that I want to leave back there but of course I always ask: Well what do I want to take with me from that year into the new one?

是以，事情和家庭糊口之间的界线变得模胡，长时候的事情时候绝对是我要丢在后面的，可是固然了，我老是会问：那末旧的一年的甚么工具我想带到新的一年了？

So you know for me, some good habits were developed this year around home cooking and also really staying connected to people who are far away. I think we’ve gotten a lot better and a lot more creative at finding ways to always be in touch with each other which is fun.

对我来讲，本年以来我在家庭烹调方面养成为了一些杰出的习气，而且可以或许与远方的人们连结很好的接洽。我认为咱们在寻觅连结接洽的方法上变得好了不少，也更有缔造力，这颇有趣。

So those simple questions are how I reflect on the year that I’ve just finished and I have a friend who does a similar process but at the end when she feels like she’s gotten everything that feels significant written down, it’s all on paper, she burns it. It’s like a cleanse you know.

这些简略的问题就是我若何回首刚竣事的那一年的方法，我有一个朋侪也会做雷同的如许一个进程，可是最后，当她感觉本身已把所有首要的工具都写下来以后，已都写在纸上了，她就会把它烧掉。就像一次净化同样。

I’ve looked at that year, I’ve appreciated it, I’ve taken everything that I need from it and now I’m just going to leave it back there. I don’t need that anymore.

我回首了那一年，我很感谢感动它，我从中拿走了我必要的一切，如今我要把它留在那儿。我再也不必要了它了。

In step two, we are focusing on the big picture and to do this I try to reconnect with my why. My reason for setting these goals in the first place.

在第二步中，咱们要着眼于大局，为此，我测验考试与本身的为甚么从新创建接洽。我刚起头设立这些方针的缘由。

Why am I doing this? What change am I trying to create for myself, for my family, for my students, for the world.

我为甚么要如许做？我想为本身，家人，学生，世界缔造甚么变革呢？

Whatever it is, why? Why are we doing this?

不论是甚么，为甚么呢？咱们为甚么如许做呢？

Everyone’s why is going to be a little different, it’s really personal but it’s so powerful. Your why and your reason is so important because it acts as your anchor as you drift off course you know, you get distracted.

每小我的缘由城市有所分歧，这确切很是小我，但功效如斯壮大。你的为甚么和缘由很是首要，由于当你偏离线路时，当你分心时，它会成为你的锚点。

This is an analogy that relates to sailing or boating where if you put an anchor down even if the wind changes or the current changes and you get drifting around, you don’t lose that position, right?

You’re always going to be able to get back to it and so your why is your anchor through the year as you get distracted by other things or something else comes up that’s more important and that happens.

这是一个与航行或荡舟有关的类比，在这类环境下，即便碰到了风变或海流变革，只要你锚定了，即便处处飘流，也不会落空标的目的，对吗？你将始终可以或许规复到本来的状况，是以当你因其他事情份心或其他更首要的事变产生时，你的为甚么就是你的锚点。

It happens to me all the time but if you have a really strong why, you’re able to bring yourself back to that bigger reason, that bigger purpose to see those goals through. Now you might be wondering: Well, E妹妹a what is my why? I don’t have a why.

这一向在我身上产生，可是若是你有一个很强的来由，你便可以把本身拉回到更弘大的缘由中，那就是看到看些方针实现的更大的目标。你可能想说：好吧，艾玛，我的为甚么是甚么呢？我没有甚么缘由。

What are you talking about? It might be a little easier to go through with some examples and I’m going to use some examples from my students in The Ladies’ Project co妹妹unity.

你在说甚么？举一些例子可能会更易一些，我将利用 The Ladies’ Project 社区中我的学生的一些例子。

We have such an incredible diverse mix of women all meeting regularly and speaking in English together often. They’re all at various stages of their lives, so some of their whys might be interesting for you but they might also be really relevant to you and where you’re at at the moment.

咱们有如斯使人难以置信的多样的女性，大师按期聚在一块儿，一块儿说英语。她们都处在人生的各个阶段，以是她们的某些缘由可能对你来讲颇有趣，但她们可能和如今的你和你如今处于的状况很是类似。

So one has migrated to Australia with her children, her husband. She wants to be able to go to her kid’s school and chat with their teachers and to hang out with other parents at the kid’s birthday parties and things like that.

有位女性带着她的孩子，和她的丈夫移民到了澳大利亚。她但愿可以或许去孩子的黉舍，与他们的教员谈天，并在孩子的生日集会上和其他怙恃一块儿出去玩。

She wants to feel like she belongs, like she’s connected to the co妹妹unity that she’s a part of. Another is a professional woman.

她想感受本身属于某个处所，好比说她作为社区的一份子，和社区有接洽同样。另外一位是职场女性。

She wants to further her career and knows that being able to confidently present her research at international conferences and network with other experts in her field will help her to do that. And another’s retired, her kids have moved to an English-speaking country to study, to work.

她想进一步成长本身的奇迹，她晓得可以或许自傲地在国际集会上展现她的钻研功效并与她地点范畴的其他专家创建接洽将有助于她做到这一点。另外一小我退休了，她的孩子们已搬到英语国度进修，事情。

They’re marrying into English-speaking families and in this case, her big reason for learning English is to be able to genuinely connect with her new daughter-in-law, her new son-in-law with ease, to meet their friends and their family.

Now these are all huge reasons why someone would devote so much time and energy to studying, learning and practising English and when it starts to feel hard or boring or frustrating, being really clear on your reason for learning and for practising will help you to get over that boredom and over that frustration and keep going.

他们要嫁给说英语的家庭，在这类环境下，她进修英语的重要缘由是可以或许真正与本身的儿媳妇和女婿创建真实的接洽，结识他们的朋侪和他们的家人。这些都是为甚么有人会花大量时候和精神来进修、操练英语的很是首要缘由，当进修起头使人感受很坚苦、无聊或懊丧时，清楚地晓得本身进修和操练的缘由将有助于你得到降服无聊和挫败感，继续进步。

So now we’ve come to the point where I focus on the goals that I want to set for myself in the year ahead. And notice that this isn’t step number one.

如今咱们到了聚焦于我想为本身在接下来的一年设定的方针的时辰了。请注重，这不是第一步。

I’ve already reflected on the year that’s finished and taken what I needed from there. I’ve reconnected with my why, my reason for setting these goals in the first place and now is when I get on to actually setting those goals.

我已思虑了行将竣事的那一年，并从中拿走了我必要的工具。我从新领会了我的为甚么，刚起头设定这些方针的缘由，而如今我要真正地起头设立方针了。

So I usually try for three to five goals. Some of them are personal, some of them are business or financial goals.

以是我凡是会测验考试三到五个方针。此中一些是小我方针，一些是事情或财政方针。

Maybe there’s a couple of travel goals and no doubt that you’ll have a goal that relates to your English progress as well. The most important thing is to make sure that these goals are in your control, that you can actually control the outcome of your goal.

或许有一两个观光方针，固然了，你要设立一个与你的英语前进相干的方针。最首要的是确保这些方针在你的把握当中，你可以把握你的方针的成果。

If the idea of a smart goal is something that you’re into, then great, use it as a reference here but for me, it’s just about making sure that you are in control of the outcome. You can control what happens there.

若是你对 SMART 方针这一设法很感乐趣，那就太好了，你可使用它作为参考，但对我而言，只是确保你可以节制成果。你可以节制产生的事变。

So let’s look at this example. I want to be living in Australia by October.

是以，让咱们来看这个例子。我想在十月份以前住在澳大利亚。

So right now that outcome is not in your control. There’s a global pandemic.

如今的成果是不受你节制的。@全%rRaYz%世%rRaYz%界大风%sGbCd%行@病。

The borders in Australia are closed. It’s uncertain at this point if you will actually be able to do that so that goal is not within your control.

澳大利亚的鸿沟是封锁的。今朝还不肯定是不是真的可以或许做到这一点，以是这个方针是在你的节制当中的。

A better goal is something like I want to move from an IELTS band 7 to a band 8 by November 2021. And I’m doing this because I want to move my family to Australia as soon as possible.

更好的方针是我想在2021年11月以前从雅思7分升到8分。我如许做是由于我想尽快和家人搬到澳大利亚。

Yes, this is a goal that’s within your control, you have the ability to make it happen. So once you’ve got your goals, make sure they’re written down.

是的，这是你可以节制的方针，你有能力实现这一方针。一旦设立了方针，请确保将其写下来。

They’re really clear in your mind but that’s not all, that is not all we’re going to focus on here because for each goal that you’ve written down, I’ve got some specific questions to ask. The first is: Does this goal feel scary?

它们在你的脑海中确切很清楚，但这还不是全数，这不是咱们要存眷的全数，由于对付你写下的每一个方针，我都有一些详细的问题要问。第一个是：这个方针会让你感触惧怕吗？

What parts of it feel hard? And really recognise what these things are because they’re the things that are going to get in your way from reaching the goal, your fears, your doubt, uncertainty.

它的哪些部门感触很坚苦？要真正熟悉到这些工具是甚么，由于它们是你在实现方针进程中会拦截你的身分，你的惧怕、你的迷惑、你的不肯定性。

That is what’s going to stop you from reaching your goal. The second question is: What things do I need to change in my life to make this goal happen?

那就是阻拦你实现方针的缘由。第二个问题是：为了实现这个方针，我的糊口中必要甚么扭转？

Do I need to change my attitude? Do I need to re-prioritise some things in my life?

我必要改反常度吗？我是不是必要从新肯定糊口中的某些事变的优先性？

You know do I need to stop doing this thing in order to make more space for that thing? You know how do you create more time.

我必要再也不做这件事变来为此外那件事变腾出空间吗？若何缔造更多的时候。

And the third question is: What kind of support do I need to make this happen? Maybe you need to join an online co妹妹unity like The Ladies’ Project where there’s opportunities to speak English regularly.

第三个问题是：我必要甚么支撑才能实现方针？或许你必要参加像 The Ladies’ Project 如许的在线社区，在那边有机遇按期说英语。

Maybe an online course is your idea of support or a study partner. All of these things are ways that you can be supported to reach your goal.

或许在线课程可让你得到支撑，或是进修同伴。所有这些都是支撑你实现方针的方法。

It’s identifying the things that you need to help get there. So for me these three questions are the most important part you know of this process of goal setting.

咱们要肯定你必要的帮忙你实现方针的身分。是以对我而言，这三个问题是方针设定进程中最首要的部门。

We can’t expect different results in 2021 if we just keep doing the same thing that we did in 2020 right? That’s the definition of insanity.

若是咱们继续做与2020年不异的事变，就不克不及指望2021年会有分歧的成果，对吗？那的确就是精力变态了。

So I use these questions to help me identify what is likely to stop me reaching my goals and try to find a way around them so that I can keep going. Now once you’ve got your big goals sorted, great!

是以，我用这些问题来帮忙我找出可能阻拦我实现方针的缘由，并想法找到解决法子，如许我才可以或许继续进步。若是你已设定了本身弘大的方针的话，那就太棒了！

We know that these goals are going to take a little bit of time to reach though right and we need to break them down into bite-sized pieces, make them actionable and achievable. So to do this, I create a 90-day plan so that’s three months I focus on the action that I’m gonna take in that first three months.

咱们晓得，要实现这些方针必要耗费一些时候，但咱们必要将它们分化为若干个小方针，如许它们才会变得可行且可以实现。为此，我制订了一个90天的规划，以是就在这三个月中，我专注于在前三个月要采纳的举措。

By focusing on just three months it allows me to check in on my goals at the end of that three month period. Am I still on track?

经由过程只存眷三个月，这让我可以在三个月竣事的时辰查抄本身的方针。我还在轨道上吗？

Have I gotten really distracted or did I try something that’s not really working and do I need to rethink that? So I love the three-month check-in because it allows me to not only look back and make sure that what I was doing was was good but also to just re-plan and readjust what that next three-month window is going to look like.

我是否是已分心了，仍是我测验考试了一些不起感化的方法，以是必要从新思虑一下？是以，我喜好三个月的查抄时候，由于它不但让我可以回首一下，确保本身做的很好，并且还可以从新规划和从新调解接下来三个月这段时候应当若何举行。

So I said earlier that these four steps work amazingly for any type of goal, professional, personal or English goals but I want to keep using the IELTS example just so that we can follow through and we can see how the questions that we just asked before will help us to get really clear on what we need to do as we create our 90-day plan.

So thinking back to that goal: I want to move from a band 7 to a band 8 in my IELTS speaking exam by November 2021.

我以前说过，这四个步调对付任何类型的方针，不管是职业方针，小我方针或英语方针均可以到达惊人的结果，可是我想继续利用雅思测验来作为一个例子，以便咱们可以继续举行下去，也能够看到咱们之条件出的问题若何帮忙咱们在制订90天规划的进程中真正弄清咱们必要做甚么。是以，请回忆一下这个方针：我想在2021年11月的雅思测验中从7分升至8分。

Is there something about that goal that makes you feel scared or nervous or worried? You might be thinking it feels really hard, you know, I haven’t spoken English in years, I don’t have anyone to practise with.

这个方针是不是会让你感触惧怕，严重或担心？你可能会认为这真的很难，我已好几年没有说英语了，我没有人可以操练。

I don’t really know how much that’s gonna cost. All of these things are doubts, they’re fears, they’re worries.

我不晓得要耗费几多时候和款项。所有这些都是疑虑，它们是惧怕，它们是担心。

Recognising these fears is going

to help you to work through them, you know, and they won’t be such a blockage or a hindrance to you actually reaching your goals. So then we can ask what would I need to change in my life to make this happen?

熟悉到这些惧怕将帮忙你降服它们，它们就不会在你现实实现方针的进程中造成阻碍。那末咱们可以问一下，要实现这一方针，我必要扭转甚么？

You know to go from a band 7 to a band 8 in your speaking test takes work, right? It takes practice, it takes study.

你晓得白话测验从7分升至8分必要不少尽力，对吧？必要操练，必要进修。

So you might need to adjust your schedule a little to create more time for yourself, for your study. Maybe you’ve got to give up your karate class for a couple of months so that you can create more time for your English practice.

是以你可能必要略微调解本身的日程放置，以便为本身和进修缔造更多时候。或许你必需抛却白手道课程几个月，以便为英语操练腾出更多时候。

And what support do you need to reach this goal? Do you need to get a tutor or enroll in a language course.

你必要甚么支撑才能实现这个方针？你必要找一位教员或加入说话课程吗？

You know maybe

you’re thinking I just don’t know how I’m going to pay for that kind of thing. I know I need a tutor but I’m not sure how I’m going to get the money together so this is great because your action plan allows you to focus on that problem first.

或许你在想，我只是不晓得我该怎样付出得起这些。我晓得我必要一位教员，但我不晓得怎样去赚钱，这实在很棒，由于你的举措规划让你先聚焦在问题上。

You know if I save thirty dollars a week for the first three months of the year, by the time I get to my next 90 day plan I should have enough saved so that I can focus on enrolling in that course or meeting that tutor, maybe you decide you want to get a study partner in the meantime just to tie you over until you can get that tutor.

All of this information is going to help you to identify the actions that you need to take to keep working towards your goal and if you did decide you needed a study partner, that doesn’t happen by magic does it?

若是我在一年的头三个月里每周节流三十美元，那末当我

进入下一个90天规划时，我就有了足够的储备了，如许我便可以专注于加入课程或与教员一块儿进修，或许你决议在此时代可以找一论理学习火伴，为了让你对峙下去，直到找到一名教员为止。所有这些信息将帮忙你肯定为实现本身的方针而必要采纳的举措，若是你确切必要进修火伴的话，他们其实不会平空呈现，对吧？

You need to find that person and that forms part of your action plan. You know maybe you say I’m going to write a personal advertisement looking for an IELTS speaking partner and I’m going to post it in all the Facebook groups that I’m part of or you might say I’m going to join an online co妹妹unity so that I can be connected with other English learners and get regular speaking practice.

你必要找到那小我，这是你的举措规划的一部门。或许你说我要写一个告白，寻觅雅思操练的火伴，把它发在我的脸书所有的群组傍边，你可能说我要加入一个线上群体，如许我便可以与其他英语进修者创建接洽并常常举行白话操练。

This 90-day plan really is the secret to my goal-setting process because it helps you to take action i妹妹ediately and as you set up your big goals, this 90-day plan is what’s going to help you set the wheels in motion which is a great expression that means to do something or some things that helps to start a process, to set the wheels in motion.

This plan is going to set you up for success, it’s going to help you to create really good habits, not down the track but right now from the get-go.

这个90天的规划是我设定方针进程的法门，由于它可以帮忙你当即采纳举措，在你设定大方针时，这个90天的规划将帮忙你加速尽力的步调，这是一个很是好的表达方法，象征着做一些事变来帮忙启动某个流程，使轮子起头活动。这个规划将让你为乐成做好筹备，它将帮忙你创建杰出的习气，不是按部就班，而是当即起头。

So I hope that it was useful to see how I’ll be planning out my year ahead and I’ll be doing it over the next few days. So if you follow this process or if you already have your own goal-setting process, I would love to hear what your goals are for 2021.

是以，我但愿它能对在你制订接下来的一年的规划有所帮忙，我在接下来的几天也会继续这么做。若是你遵守这个进程，或你有本身的方针设定进程的话，我很想听听你在2021年的方针是甚么。

Let me know down in the co妹妹ents below. I’m super excited to hear them and get behind you.

请鄙人面的评论中奉告我吧。我很想听到它们，并为你供给帮忙。

Thank you for watching my lessons, for sharing your co妹妹ents, sharing my lessons and being part of the 妹妹mEnglish co妹妹unity throughout 2020. I will definitely see you in 2021.

感激收看我的课程，分享评论，分享我的课程，在全部2020年景为甘旨英语社区的一部门。我必定会在2021年再次见到大师的。

I’m taking a little break just over the new year but I will be back and right here delivering lessons for you very, very soon. Happy new year!

我会在新年略微苏息一下，但我很快就会回来的，就在这里，继续为大师供给课程。新年快活！